Doing what others do will often blindfold you...follow what your heart says and life will be beautiful....

Thursday, 17 November 2011

:) I was on twitter the other day & someone pointed out that I have not written a blog post since a long time. It made me wonder too...why didn't I write anything all this while when I had heaps of free time floating around me....maybe because I was busy being lazy! :D

Wednesday, 8 June 2011


Its a strange phenomena! Being exposed to the misery of another, depletes one of his or her own energy. It is actually physically weakening. You are considerate and accommodating to the troubles of others, you wish to solve their problem for them, you wish to take away their pain and anguish…and you do to some extent. the end of it all you actually end up depleting your own energy.

Is this a natural or am I being difficult, one often wonders. Am I being practical in believing that this is how the universe functions or am I missing out on something...How much can one give in solace and understanding. How much will be the desire and the necessity in situations such as this. Who will determine what needs to be done. And who will decide that enough has been done.
How is one to ascertain whether what you give is taken in the right spirit. How does one determine whether the issue is genuine and deserving of attention. And how will the other party be convinced that what you give is being sufficiently understood. What if it is not. What if it is looked upon as a pretense, an act. Would this challenge trust. And what if it is challenging trust. Does this one incident then, become a reckoner for future association.
Years and years of togetherness and belief in another to crumble with just one incident, would be harsh would it not, for the association. Or would it still survive despite everything. And if it did, who would give the greater understanding. Who would be required to bend first and why.

I am perplexed in thought. A thought which I have hypothetically built to illustrate an inconceivable example. There is no cause for it. There is no burning problem. And neither is any one in anguish or pain. Just…a thought...And may it remain just that...a thought…

मुसीबत पड़ी
तो रोया था ;
ज्यादा मुसीबत पड़ी
तो चुप हो गया था ;
बहुत ज्यादा मुसीबत पड़ी है
तो हँसता हूँ ,
आखिर दुनिया में बसता हूँ  .

When trials, trouble and tribulations came upon me,
I cried
When they increased,
I had become quiet;
When they increased even more,
I began to laugh,
After all I am a resident of this world….

Sometimes it is important to be reflective. Sometimes it  is important not to be too far away from the realities of life. Sometimes it is important to understand that being cynical is not a human deficiency. Sometimes it is important to accept that a utopian existence may never exist. Sometimes it is important to succumb to our frailties. Sometimes it is important to know that we are human.

We are weak and open to temptation. We are gullible and open to the point of deceit. We are afraid of our own disability and hide it behind masks. We are honest to ourselves when we are with ourselves. We lament misery on others and belie similar misery on us. We are we and they are they.. and the twain shall never meet.


Thursday, 2 June 2011

The White Man's Burden

In rememberance of all all the people who lived, struggled, fought, died and survived through this pain of Whites and Coloreds.

History has a lot to tell us about the sorrowful lives of our ancestors....and the sacrifices they made to make our lives better.

Rudyard Kipling, an Englishman born in India, wrote this poem in 1899.

Take up the White Man's burden -
Send forth the best ye breed -
Go bind your sons to exile
To serve your captives' need;
To wait in heavy harness,
On fluttered folk and wild -
Your new-caught, sullen peoples,
Half - devil and hald-child.

Take up the White Man's burden -
In patience to abide,
To veil the threat of terror,
And check the show of pride;
By open speech and simple,
And hundred times made plain
To seek another's profit,
And work another's gain.

Take up the White Man's burden -
The savage wars of peace -
Fill full the mouth of Famine
And bid the sickness ceasel
And when your goal is nearest
The end for others sought,
Watch sloth and heathen Folly
Bring all your hopes to nought.

Take yo the White Man's burden -
No tawdry rule of kings
But toil of serf and sweeper -
The tale of common things.
The ports ye shall not enter,
The roads ye shall not tread,
Go mark them with your living,
Go mark them with your dead.

Take up the White Man's burden -
And reap his old reward:
The blame of those ye better;
The hate of those ye guard -
The cry of hosts ye humour
(Ah, slowly!) towards the light:-
"Why brought he us from bondage,
Our loved Egyptian night?"

Take up the White Man's burden -
Ye dare not stoop too less-
Nor call too loud on freedom
To cloke your weariness;
By all ye cry or whisper,
By all ye leave or do,
The silent, sullen peoples
Shall weigh your Gods and you.

Take up the White Man's burden -
Have done with childish days -
The lightly proffered laurel,
The easy ungrudged praise.
Comes now, to search your manhood
Through all the thankless years,
Cold, edged with dear-bought wisdom,
The judgment of your peers!

Tuesday, 24 May 2011


I would tend to agree with "Aimlessness contribues to nothingness" this with some elements of hesitancy thrown in. Rest and relaxation could be in the realm of doing nothing except perhaps to come away from harsh work schedules. There may not be work in it, but the rest in recuperating the mind and body could be of immense benefit. If there are no dead lines to meet, no appointments to rush to, no time lines to be met, the exercise could well be quite rewarding. Other than taking in the fresh air, there really isn’t much to take in on such occasions. It would differ I should imagine if the person involved were to be finding rest and relaxation in his or her work itself. Then of course the reason for rest would have to be negated and forfeited. But other than this, it would be of interest to see how others reacted. Many during this time take up new and untouched ventures.

Vocations that do not have any relevance to their immediate work. Its a brave attempt. An attempt I think that could in the long run enhance some aspect of their regular work. Which is an interesting way of looking at it. Working as an teacher, but playing golf for example in that spare moment - competition, concentration, patience, correct choices in the iron - correct decisions! Funny how everything gets interrelated! Such magic! Play a sport to win always, obsess labor plan. Teach and bring in those practices again. Fascinating! I know many that approach either with similar sentiment and are cause for envy. But why. Each individual should have his or her game plan in a professional world. Most, in an individual professional world. This is our realm our job our life, it would need all that it needs to succeed and prosper. Why then disuade them from practicing what they need to practice, when they work for its enhancement.

There are friendships and associations and holding hands in various professions. Can we honestly say that they are above the consideration that they have been formed with? Does it not cross our minds at some stage that an association would benefit a certain cause other than what the association is about? Invite someone over for dinner, for who knows, tomorrow we may need him. Lets send him or her flowers and a card on the birthday or anniversary. They are important people!! And on…

At some stage of our lives we have all sat back and thought or executed such acts. Who to acknowledge, who to not. Who to hold hands over a meal and who not. And perpetually the thought ringing in our ears, good we came to know them, imagine what would have transpired if they had not been around. It is a harsh reality, but a reality all the same. Some where sometime it does cross our mind. It should not, but it does.

That is the positive behind such operation. There is the other too. Know someone, connect with him on an issue, seek his now understood reason for the relationship, and he says he cannot! Genuinely can not. Does the relationship sour? Man…I asked you a favor as a friend, you are my friend are you not, and you move away? Never expected this of you, how could you? And now when ever you meet or invite or consult, would it not have the strains of that flavor where there was the absence of the expected help. Just wondering and conjecturing!!

Of course this does not take anything away from those rare and genuine relationships that have through generations gone beyond expectation and hope and duty. They exist and prosper despite all else. They exist despite the oft repeated thought in our minds - ‘let me do this for him, after all I do owe him one, do I not’ . When do we forget that thought, ‘after all’…

A simple situation but one that lingers in my mind often…

So what does one do? If you were to ask me, I would do, and do it without knowledge of the other. Or never attempt to display my presence, or talk on the subject. Favor done, forget it.

Never lend, and if you do, never expect it to be back!!

I hope the almighty shall never put me in a situation where I shall need to ask, or beg. Neither would I want to be in a situation where I am expected to give. But if there were to be a consensus on my attitude I would myself vote for giving rather than asking. And after giving I would honestly forget!!

Somewhere there is a beauty in the soul when this is done. Better a better soul than a calculating mind...with so much beauty around do we really need to…?

Thursday, 5 May 2011

The Opportunity Within

I rode several waves in my life. There shall be without any doubt or dispute, many more storms and strong currents to battle. To say that it shall be not possible to come face to face with them  is a defeat. I find it easier to write about it than to be in a position to face it in practical terms. I am hesitant to commit, to aspire, to be defined in the pursuit of my will. And I really would not know how it would all turn out even if I did know. What I do know is indulgence in the execution of what i do, the strife for perfection when displayed, shall find favor. Not that one clamors for it. But if it were to come by I should and would accept it, in whatever shape or form. That is a resolve. Resolves at times falter and give way. Better to quietly do the work assigned and move on. Moving on is prime. Stagnate and stagnation shall become your password. Sleep is a necessity. Stretch it and its a disease. Stagnation and sleep in an anomaly!!? No not quite. The reference is to sleep being almost stagnant.

Those that challenge, doubt, insinuate, bode ill, should always be remembered with utmost grace. They are the ones that shall and will be responsible for filling you with the strength to disprove them. Disprove them not to throw it in their face. That would rob you of your dignity and class. Disprove them for the betterment of your own self. When you shall better yourself, the others will diminish on their own.

I must learn something new each day. I must have knowledge of something each day which has hitherto been unknown to me. I shall be complete perhaps never, and I hope I do not. Because it would rob me of my necessity to acquire more.

Acquiring is not all nor is it the proverbial end of the road. What I acquire, if not dispensed in the right direction would be wasteful. It must be dispersed, spread, given out. Legacies are an important and integral part of our lives. To not worry about them would be a sacrilege. Gather and acquire for yourself yes, but with the ultimate belief that it should transcend all barriers and reach the right destination.

I am a creative person. Or at least claim to be one. I may not have the capacity to be of some caliber. But if the need to fulfill a desire emanates, we should attempt it without any qualms.

My destination - an early - well relatively early night beckons me. I have a window of greater dream factories soon. Let me not lose this opportunity!!


Wednesday, 27 April 2011


Imagination and expectation ever in competition with each other. Others imagine more for us than we do. Others expect too, far more than what we would comfortably want. What is this with others? Look within and you will find so much that you need to imagine about yourself, expect from yourself.

Be concerned and worry on that. Or is it that when you do that with others you indeed accept your own deficiencies and shortcomings. I would imagine so and honestly expect that too. So my imagination and expectation are in place...hehe! :P

What a sad life they must lead that live off the lives of others. Searching, craving, manipulating, constructing,  engineering, exploiting...and so many other unmentionable adjectives, just so one could discomfort the other, in order to bring comfort to themselves!!

Monday, 25 April 2011

“Memories are very confusing...they make you laugh when you remember the time you cried together...But make you cry when you remember the time you laughed together...

“We deceive ourselves when we fancy that only weakness needs support. Strength needs it far more.”

“A man was walking on a shaking bridge. He prayed for help.. he saw God on the other side of the bridge and asked God to come near, but God did’nt come. Man got angry. With great difficulty he crossed to the other side and saw God holding the broken bridge ! Trust HIM. HIS ways are amazing!!”

“The moment you think of giving up, think of a reason why you held so long.. Do or die is an old saying … do it before you die is the new one..!!”

“Small minds talk about things. Average minds talk about business. Great minds talk about growth. But.. champions never talk .. they just perform and the world talks !!”